Empathy – “the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another […]”
Empaths are not as rare as many people would like to believe. Everyone is an Empath to a degree. The illusion of it being so special is that most people never really tap into this ability and those who do, tend to over-dramatize it for various reasons. If you do a little research on this you’ll quickly find that most articles tend to give off a negative vibe. You would think that being an Empath is quite awful as a lot of self-proclaimed prodigies tend to cry their eyes out complaining about how drained they feel because of all the negativity they are surrounded by.
I’m sure those people are nowhere close to being an actual Empath. They simply seek attention because their inability to deal with their own negativity makes them feel like this all happens because they are so special and psychic, too fragile for this heavy world. Sure thing, Earth is no angel’s dream but I am more than sure that when a soul chooses to come to Earth they are aware of what they’re getting themselves into.
Ability vs. Responsibility
You’ve probably heard that power comes with responsibility. A person who can’t take responsibility over their own emotions can never have the power to tap into what others feel without turning themselves into a victim – despite the situation having nothing to do with them. Now there are Empaths out there who aren’t quite aware of why they get so involved with other people’s emotions. However, they never present themselves as the victim of the situation. This can become apparent when the unaware Empath begins to over-dramatize the situation somebody else is in, ending up completely devastated by the thought of that person’s suffering.
While they pick up vibes from other people and take on the same energy as their peers, they have the desire to lift everyone up . This makes sense because doing so would result in them feeling better as well. Ironically, in many cases, the ‘sufferer’ ends up comforting the Empath in an attempt to prove that they can deal with the situation.
The catch here is that the Empath is not a miracle worker. Even if that’s what they wish to be at first – they aren’t designed to make everyone happy but to guide people towards happiness. This is achieved through inner work – because no one is in control over our emotions aside from ourselves. We can get influenced by others but the final decision on how we feel about things is up to us. Empaths, in a sense, must learn to accept that they are powerless when it comes to other people’s hardships – even if they can perceive all of those things, they are in no position to decide when it’s time for someone to let go and move on. But they can stand by a person’s side and offer emotional comfort when it’s needed.
They must learn to take a step back and observe the situation from a neutral point of view without getting involved in it by picturing themselves as the sufferer. Many times it’s just a horrible fantasy and the true suffering is not as terrible as they imagine it.